Relationship Psychotherapy

When working with couples, I am committed, equally to you both. I don’t take sides. My role is to facilitate an environment that is safe so that true emotions can be felt, and sincere words can be spoken to each other. Communication is key, so I will teach you both how to communicate honestly and directly. We will also work on identifying emotions and expressing them with compassion and bravery. The best relationships are flexible and have a focus on the us and not the me.

Do any of the questions below resonate with you?

Are your relationships not as you imagined they would be? Does it feel like you and your partner can't get on the same page? Are you having a hard time talking about your emotions in a way that you and your partner understand? Is racism, heterosexism, transphobia, or other forms of oppression negatively impacting your relationship? Does it seem like you are your partner are clashing over core values? Do you avoid conversations about culture because you are afraid they will lead to an argument or disappointment? Maybe you feel like you have to explain your culture to your partner? Does your partner not understand how sexism impacts you on a day-to-day basis and perceives you as whining? Do you love each other but your families disapprove and it’s starting to interfere with your relationship? Is sex unfulfilling? Is sex or sex talk taking up too much space in your relationship that it is hard to build emotional intimacy? Are you questioning if you can trust your partner or be your true self around them?

If these questions sound like you, I may be the right therapist for you.

As your couples therapist in NY & NJ, both of you are my client. I create a fair, balanced, and safe environment where you both are seen and heard. I use a combination of culture and trauma-informed cognitive, emotion-focused, and somatic techniques to help you increase (1) your emotional and romantic consciousness; (2) connection to each other; and (3) relationship skills competence.

As your therapist, I will help you gain clarity on your relationship and find the best path forward. Also, don’t be shy to ask about enhanced couples therapy intensives for quick, maximum impact.

Not only have I completed specialized couples therapy training, I also personally know the ups and downs of romantic relationships as a Black same gender loving man in a committed same-sex relationship for 18 years. I also know the added challenges and gifts of marriage, as a person who has been married for 6 years. Allow me to utilize my professional and lived experience to help you and your partner reach your relationship goals.